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Valentine’s Day. Again.

All my single ladies… I feel like you and me need to have a little talk.

I just know that you’ve been scrolling through your feed… Seeing the flowers. The chocolates. The date nights. The candidly captured kissing moments. The exceedingly sweet acts of love. I know your eyes have witnessed it because it’s exactly what I’ve been seeing too. The celebration of love. Strange thing is… You’re not much in the celebrating mood.

And my heart feels heavy.


It’s not because I wish it was me.
And it’s not because my man has yet to show up.
And it’s not even because I feel like my biological clock is ticking. 😐

(Okay, okay. That was comical relief, guys.)

My heart feels heavy… Because it aches for you. And when I say “you”… What I really mean is “us”. I hurt because on this day, I know how YOU feel. On a day which is filled with joy for so many, it often leaves the rest of us feeling forgotten. Empty. Dismissed.

It reminds us of people we once loved, and somehow lost. It reminds us of broken dreams. Of shattered moments. It brings to mind the truth that we sometimes CAN ignore, but on a day like today… can’t seem to shake off.

We’re alone.

You guys. I KNOW. And for some crazy reason… Right now… I feel like I need to validate you. That you aren’t dismissed. That you aren’t forgotten. That you aren’t alone. That you are most definitely, most assuredly, all-consumingly LOVED.

Someone out there needs to know tonight that when God says He loves you… It isn’t conditional. It is not performance based. You cannot WIN or KEEP His love by being more fit, more beautiful, or by being the best in your class. You can’t make Him love you more by your successes, or any less because of your mistakes. He doesn’t give you empty promises of love for you one day, and then is walking out your front door the next. Because when He says He loves you–there are no strings attached.

Beautiful… He just loves you because.

So my sweet, extraordinary, single friend… You ARE loved. In fact… He loved you, Beloved, before you even knew His name.

So let these words calm the ache in your heart tonight. You are SO not alone. 💕

  • Jennifer Laymon Guy - April 15, 2016 - 12:35 pm

    Thanks, Tiff, I’m so thankful to read this right now. Glory to God for your obedience. I can’t tell you how often, “look Jenny, if Tiffany can do this faithful, single, honor God thing, and work crazy hours serving needy people, then so can YOU, in Jesus Name!” goes through my mind. ….and the enemy has tried to make it be about me comparing myself to you, But, NO, I, like Jesus, turn around and say, “It is written! , that those who compare themselves among themselves ARE NOT WISE (Paul in II Cor.10) so ,in Jesus Name, I will be encouraged by her faithfulness! ” You, PapaGod, are THE SAME, yesterday, today and forever. YOU are NO RESPECTER of persons and what YOU’VE done for one, you’ll do for another. …..Hallelujah! I am a DOER of The Word of God! 🙂 🙂 🙂ReplyCancel

    • Tiffany - April 15, 2016 - 12:55 pm

      Isn’t that just like the enemy? He’s just so rotten. So thankful for your testimony… It encourages me!! I love you and am thankful to be in such a place where we can encourage and sharpen one another… Love you!ReplyCancel

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